Wednesday, September 29, 2010


I had a conversation with a friend recently who has also been through some serious health issues recently.
She was lamenting and trying to reason the "Why" and "Why Me/Us" syndrome.
Part of the conversation (by e-mail) from her read as such;
"...I just don't know. I am still trying to find justification for all our whole family has been through since 2001."

"...Some are the same fears that we have for you and other fears you have that we cannot understand. There has to be a reason for all of it. I just don't get it."
We all want the above, throughout our lives. Whether health related, job/profession related (lost a job, promotion), socially related (lost a boyfriend/girlfriend) and numerous other of life's moments.
I took some time before replying and did so with the following;
Time and time again I have come to understand that there is no answer to why or why me. The best I can decipher, as difficult as it is to do so , is to ACCEPT. Acceptance brings peace, acceptance brings being able to decide "what now" and to move on. Over the past 30 years I have faced 5 surgeries, not the least of which was the transplant and eventually my current crisis. While I can easily suggests that I am walking under a dark cloud, I honestly have to say that I am lucky. All that has occurred to date could have materialized in much more different and serious results. However here I am, here we all are able to reflect, discuss, support and realize that despite it all we have survived. That's as lucky as one can be and we continue to march forward with the lessons we've learned. Our lives as you know are journeys and as such bring with them peaks and valleys, forks on the road and challenges and decisions to make. The biggest decision is - the past is behind. Focus through the windshield not the rear-view mirror. Also -what have I learned from my experiences and how can I use this to protect and motivate myself going forward.
Lastly, if you read my Blog post from today (finally got around to it), the important message is...Are you the sailor or the sail? Is the wind directing you or can you control the sail and direction?

I welcome your feedback........

Sunday, September 26, 2010

I Am Baaaack

Hello Family, Friends and Followers

Well as you can tell from my last Blog, it has been quite a while. Unfortunately the abscence was due to health reasons and even though they are not behind me, I am in a position now where I can dedicate the time to add to the Blog.

I have had the time to think though so look out, there may be some very thought provoking blogs coming your way.

As I had mentioned in the past, I am not here to offer answers but simply share some thoughts and inspire discussion. These thoughts deal with Life and Death, some are deeply personal ones and I hope to share what has worked for me.

So without further delay let's get started with a light hearted topic..................................

Can A Person Die If They Haven't Lived?

Read it again-Can A Man or Woman Die if They Haven't Lived

What would the Eulogy read?
What would the Obituary Say?

Well this does pose a good question. I told you it would be light hearted-

What is Life? and What is Death?

Is Life a Physical Form or Spiritual Form?

Is Death a Spiritual or Physical From?

Well folks when one is faced with their own mortality a lot starts to happen in the 'grey matter' between the ears.
And let me suggest this as well-are we not all facing our own mortality the very day we are born?

Life for a 6 month old is very different than life for a 6 year old, 16 year old and 60 year old. At different points of our lives we are either influenced by society and those around us, or are in a position to influence others. Life offers different opportunities, challenges, obstacles and horizons. Life for some means getting up at the very early hours in the morning, getting the family ready for their daily chores and then going out to work 2 jobs in order to keep a roof over their head and a stocked fridge.

Forget the TV and computer, this is simply survival mode.

Life for others means the ability to work from home, earn inordinate amounts of money, vacation throughout the year and afford the best of luxuries.

Has one "Lived" more than the other?
Is one "Happier" than the other?

Is one's Obituary going to be glowing more than the other?
Is one seen to have accomplished more than the other?

And if so, I ask WHY? According to Whom?

Why is it that in this 21st Century, in this progressive (I am only alluding to our North American) Society is there so much inequity?

So many ways in which to LIVE? and make it count.

I believe we all start with the same OPPORTUNITIES.

But ask yourself this-Are you the Sailor or the Wind? Are you where you are Today because of the direction of the wind or the direction of the sail?


And that in a nutshell brings the point of THOUGHT! of CHOICE! of DECISION! of PASSION! and COMMITMENT!

I have been a big fan of the Personal Development field for years and continue to be so. These thoughts I have thrown your way are topics that have been in discussion a lot longer than I have even been around (52 years) but yet even today they still bring to the table a lot of discussions and ultimately some mirror gazing and decision making.

O.K. I need a break, this is indeed deep. I'll continue shortly on this very topic with hopefully some inspiration and motivation. But do take the time to think about some of this, reflect how your decisions got you to where you are. Are you leading a fulfilling life?-and that will be very different to many people.

I'd like to share my thoughts about Thought, Decision, Choices on my next Blog.